Understanding Thai Bar Girls | Must Read for First Timers

Whether you’re coming to Bangkok to date Thai bar girls or just to pay to have sex with them, it’s good to understand a little about their background.

Don’t you agree?

As much as I am here objectifying prostitutes in Thailand, I have much respect for them.

I know you can’t tell by me writing posts about how to get cheap sex in Bangkok. Or revealing that there are many Thai prostitutes posing as virgin Thai university girls to play on the fantasies of men around the world.

No matter what, I know what they have to go through. So to give you an insight into the minds of Thai bar girls I’m going to interview Gam. A former bar girl prostitute that’s been around Thailand’s sex industry more than once.

Meet Gam – One of the Most Successful Bar Girls I’ve Ever Met

It is estimated that there are 1 million sex workers in Thailand as reported here. And that at least 20 percent of all Thai women have dabbled in the oldest profession one fashion or another. But not all have happy endings. Gam’s story shows she beat the odds.

Lovely Gam is a Thai girl I’ve known since she was 20 years old. And at the time working inside one of the most popular bars in Nana Plaza. 5 years later she moved onto another popular bar in Soi Cowboy where she made even more money. And collected numerous sponsors along her career.

“In Thailand sponsors are men, whether Thai or Farang, that take care of prostitutes financially.” – Jim Hunt

Gam is a common nickname for Thai women. It means “cheeks” in the Thai language which is appropriate. She’s a slim girl with curves in the right places. Her most notable features are her high cheek bones accentuating her beautiful large round eyes.

She reads books on psychology to get deeper into her customers heads. Studies different languages on her own and learning from her foreign sponsors around the world she’s met throughout her profession.

She Works Hard for Her Money

By the time Gam was 30 years old she worked in oil massage parlors with a stint in the freelance scene to the go go bars in Bangkok and Pattaya.

Gam has amassed a small fortune including a 4 bedroom and 2 bath house near her hometown in Isaan. She also has a 1 bedroom condo in the posh neighborhood of Thonglor in Bangkok so it’s easier to manage her businesses. And every two years she trades in for the latest model of BMWs. Red of course, her favorite color.

On top of the hefty amount of money she brings in from her profession she has an army of sponsors sending her money left and right for no rhyme or reason. Every month she claims she receives around 50,000THB from Johns around the world given to her for pocket change.

When Christmas, Valentines Day and her birthday rolls in she can easily receive 80,000THB while taking a shit at home.

I was even with her one time during a birthday dinner and saw she received 75,000THB on her mobile bank app sent from a sponsor in the Netherlands.

Gam wanted a nose job. The next day a sponsor dropped 150,000THB into her account. The operation was performed by a well known Thai plastic surgeon from a top notch Bangkok hospital and only cost 80,000THB. The rest was spent on a holiday to recuperate in Phuket a few days.

The previous year she was handed 250,000THB to get her already perfect set of tits upgraded to D cups. It really is staggering to know how much money guys are throwing away. But for Gam I finally realize why.

Gam is Worth It

As of writing, Gam is in her early 40’s and holding a master’s degree in business from Thamassat University.

Through the right connections she’s opened a couple of successful dental clinics scattered throughout Bangkok. So there’s no need to go back to her old lifestyle.

The first time I met Gam was inside a gogo bar in Nana Plaza. I’ve met a lot of Thai bar girls by then. With her I already knew there was something special about her. Subsequent times I’ve been back to the same bar and I’d never see her again. Only to be told she’s still with customers that have taken her out for a very long time.

But when I did get back in touch with her I felt I hit the jackpot. So I asked for her number and been in contact with her ever since.

I found out a lot about her as she did about me. Her origins isn’t much different than other Isaan ladies working in the country’s sex service industry. But how she came out of prostitution and what she has earned from it is what makes her a cut above the rest.

She’s a gorgeous girl inside and outside with a bright bubbly personality that never quits. She’s got brains and beauty. And brawn as well where it’s needed. She’s definitely not your run of the mill Thai prostitute.

The Best Rags to Riches Story Always Starts with a Small Town

Gam left her small village up north in Isaan at age 16. She found work at a small 2 star hotel on the outskirts of Bangkok cleaning rooms and waitressing tables. Most girls would be sad to leave their village. Gam was excited. Because she had nothing left after her grandmother had past away. Her parents were long gone or dead there was nothing else.

It was either take her chances in Bangkok or stay with an uncle that always eyed her in a way that made her feel uncomfortable. Gam had other distant relatives that wanted to take advantage of her  youth and potential beauty.

Like many ladies around Isaan that hooked a foreigner they knew they had a chance for a brand new house and extra spending money. And Gam was viewed as their express ticket to quick comforts. So on a daily basis she was being groomed to meet foreigners by women posing as relatives with no qualms about lining their own pockets.

It was a no brainer decision. With a bag stuffed with a few personal belongings, some change of clothes with a few hundred Baht in her pocket, she hopped on the first bus to Bangkok.

Or risk being tormented by a sick twisted uncle addicted to home brewed hooch. Or sold off early to pedophiles.

And So it Begins in Bangkok

At 19 she was seduced into the business of gogo bars starting off as a bar waitress in Patpong red light district. Bar owners saw her potential. Gam was 170cm tall, thin with ample breasts and curvaceous hips. At first she resisted going with foreign customers that had their eyes on her.

Until one day a Japanese businessman offered her an amount of money she could not resist. From then on that same Japanese customer committed to sponsoring Gam. Although for a short period of time. But it was enough for Gam to see it as a golden opportunity, a ticket to paradise with no commitments. It opened her eyes to her true potential.

From then on the temptation to make as much money as the other bar prostitutes that sell themselves won out.

She’s had the opportunity to bounce around Bangkok’s commercial sex industry. She’s traveled to numerous countries in Europe, Japan and South Korea. All expenses paid along with a hefty spending stipend for shopping.

Because of her beauty she was picked up by wealthy sponsors from all over the world. Where ever her sponsors had kept her she learned their language.

Not bad for a girl from a very small village surrounded by dirt and rice patties.

Questions for Gam – With Answers That Might Surprise You

Me: Gam, thanks for doing this. Some things have changed in the industry since it has been written up in many websites and numerous blogs. It would be great if you can offer some insights from your perspective. Even though you’ve been out of the industry for years now, I know you still keep in touch with many Thai girls still in the business.

Gam: Thank you Jim, it’s my pleasure. I have not seen you for a few months and always wanted to catch up with you. Yes I still have many friends working in bars and freelancing too. I’ve never been interviewed so I don’t know how to start.

Me: Just relax. Have some more wine. Let’s start off with a juicy question.

What kinds of customers do you prefer? And why?

And please be honest. I know in your line of work white lies are a part of the business. Don’t be shy and say everything that is in your heart even if you think it’s offensive to your customers. Every one reading this are big boys.

Gam: Haha, okay I will, I promise. At least you asked a easy question first.

Personally, I prefer Korea, Chinese and Japanese man followed by Australia and America man.

I can see a surprise look on your face and I know this is not a common answer from a girl from Isaan. I explain why. I watch many movies and soap operas from Korea, China and Japan ever since I first came to Bangkok. My first job was at a hair salon so there’s a TV inside to watch shows.

And the men in those TV shows and movies were so handsome that ever since I have a crush to this day. I also watch many movies from America which is how I learned to speak English and think many American movie stars are handsome too.

But I have many friends who love German, Spain and French man because they follow football.

Me: What about Australian and American men?

Gam: Oh, I find they are very funny and always like a good time. At least that is from my experience. But because I watch so many American movies and TV series too I can easily have conversations with American men.

Me: So which do you prefer, looks or sense of humor?

Gam: I prefer money haha…

And dick size I’ve seen many cocks and can say not all Asian men are small. I’ve seen many European man have small size even when their body is very big and tall. And I see many Asian men short and small body but have big dick.

I always hear foreign men say Thai women prefer foreign man because all Thai man have small dick. And then I hear joke they make about, be careful of Thai ladyboy they have big dick.

Ladyboy is still Thai man right? I am confused. Don’t they realize they just contradicted themselves.

Also depends on how tall ladies are. Many small bar girls don’t want big cocks because it will be too painful for them.

I am not short but I don’t like a dick too small and I don’t like a dick too big.

Me: Ah, you want a goldilocks dick.

Gam: What’s that? Is it a gold dick?

Me: No. In your case it means you want a middle sized dick that is just right for you. Not too small. Not too big. Like mine.

Gam: That still don’t make sense. Yours is small.

Me: Okay that’s enough. No one wants to hear about my actual dick size.

Next question, who’s better in bed?

Gam: All men are not good in bed I think. What I did was not about romance. Because I know men that come to Thailand are mostly here for quick sex thrill. A man feels horny and we’re there to satisfy their urge. That’s how I view it and I keep emotions out of it.

Many new visitors make the mistake of talking sweet to Thai prostitutes. In Thai we call that “pak wan” ปากหวาน translates to sweet mouth. Essentially it means sweet talker. I don’t know why man want to talk sweet. Oh you’re so beautiful. Or wow you look amazing. I understand it’s just compliments.

I want every man reading this to know it’s not romance when you’re with a prostitute. So I don’t like sweet talkers. Most working girls won’t believe what you say. Until you hand us a lot of money.

Otherwise, how can you say sweet compliments during sex. But always ask if we can be cheaper. (Side note: I’m totally guilty of this lol..)

I also don’t like man that is rough  I find that Indian and Arab men are too rough. Not all of course. Some are good customers too. But many times they have smell on their skin that I cannot stand. I know you explained to me long ago before it is something they eat called comin’.

Me: Actually it is called cumin. It’s a spice ingredient found in many of their food. It’s pronounced like “cool men”.

Gam: Yes, so many girls I work with complain about Arab and Indian men. But to be fair many Europe man can be just as bad when having sex and have bad body odor. For Arab and India man the smell won’t come off even after shower.

But I remember I have one Indian customer visiting from UK, very nice, no bad smell and good tipper. Very polite and friendly.

That’s really all you have to be, polite and friendly.

Even though what we do we don’t enjoy sex with man all the time. We are not horny all the time. Sometimes it is painful because we have too many customers with no rest in between.

I also do not like man eat my pussy. I don’t know any working girl really want man to eat their pussy. But if customer pay money we have no choice. And a lot of men don’t even know what they’re doing when they’re down there.

There Are Lots of Freaks Out There

Me: Any crazy stories involving your customers?

Gam: I have so many! My god, you cannot believe how many men are so crazy. I have one customer who asked me to put big fake dick in his ass and yell at him “Ask mommy to punish you!” At the time he made me wear Hello Kitty costume. I don’t know how many time he use fake dick but he don’t wash. Because when I take out from bag it smell like shit.

One customer ask me to dance slowly and he take care of himself. He have this really crazy eye look on his face. And when he cum he make sound like crying baby.

Me: Gam, are you making this shit up? (I was being sarcastic. I know a lot of crazy requests are actually made by some punters)

Gam: No Jim, I swear. No lies. The worst customer I have and he’s from Europe. I forget where exactly. He has so many tattoos. Even on his dick. After he cums he start to cry. And then he becomes angry and screams to me look what I make him do.

I was so scared. I thought he was going to kill me. I left very fast. This was in his apartment and he bar fined me for long time. After that day I told myself I have to finish with this lifestyle.

This is one of the reasons I always ask money first when I’m in customer hotel room or apartment.

It’s big pressure and a lot of headache to come up with money to support family. Which is why many ladies have to unsavory deeds.

Me: I get what you mean. Through the years I’ve known a lot of Isaan ladies that do rimming on customers. Nasty, but feels so damn good, lol. Would you say that is a fair assessment?

Gam: When the price is right yes I would that is fair to say. You see, most Isaan girls have to make money quickly. So they have to do whatever it takes, including eating ass.

Isaan girls have a strong obligation to help support their parents and siblings in their villages. So they do whatever it takes to fulfill their family commitment.

Me: That’s something I really have to say about Isaan ladies. They’ve really sacrificed themselves to put food on their family’s plates and then some. Actually a lot of Thai women have strong familial fidelity, not just ladies from Isaan.

Gam: Very true. I don’t have any family to support which is why I am able to save up a lot of money. Plus learning the importance of saving money and not throwing it away was a wake up call.

I know there are a lot of girls that have worked years to make so much money and they spent it all. With not one single baht to their name. Gambling, drugs, bad men, greedy spoiled family have ruined many good Isaan ladies with honorable intentions.

I try to look out for the younger ladies I see come to work in the clubs. These are beautiful girls and whenever I see them I see myself those many years ago the first time working in go go bar. I take them under my wing and explain to them what you told me about putting the money away safely and wisely.

Thai Prostitutes with the Right Looks Can Earn 45000THB+ a Month

Me: Yes, use your money to work for you instead of working for your money.

Gam: I remember. Many of my sponsors work in financial planning and they help me invest my money.

Sadly, many ladies are not responsible with the large amount of money the bring in. When I saw one girl spending away her money too fast she accused me of wanting to take advantage of her.

I am not angry at her. I just feel sorry of what may come to her when her looks fade and she becomes undesirable.

I do not think any lady working in sex want to be a prostitute forever.

Me: There are exceptions. I call them lifers. There are still bar girls in their 40’s on stages of gogo bars. They just don’t know what else to do. And they are on the job to fulfill some type of emotional need on top of monetary.

A lot of working girls don’t realize they make more money than Thais that graduated with a degree and working at a white collared job.

Gam, do you regret your profession at all?

Here’s Something Everyone Should Really Clue in On

Gam: (A long pause) I do. But at the same time I don’t. I still remember my life before I left Isaan when I was 16 years old. I was working the rice fields early in the morning until afternoon where I had to complete all kinds of manual labor.

And the salary was little. My earnings went to my grandmother when she was alive. She was sick, so the money went to her medical care.

Sometimes I hear foreigners complain about ladies working in bars. They say if we studied harder in school we wouldn’t have to be working as prostitutes. That is something so stupid to say. How they know about our life?

And good schools in their home country are free! While in Thailand we have to pay a lot of money for good schools. So I don’t like it when foreigners blame us working girls about finding better jobs. Or that we should’ve stayed in school.

And how many foreigners do you know have to take care of their families financial needs all the way through old age?

Me: I agree. A lot of people who visit here are very ignorant. Personally I don’t understand how any expats living here for so long still don’t realize Thai people don’t have the same advantages as those growing up in the West and developed Asia.

Gam: Yes, I chose this work. But I did not choose my parents who abandoned me. In Thailand we do not have social welfare services like more developed countries. We are left alone to fend for ourselves. I wanted to go to school when I arrived in Bangkok after I found my job in a hotel. They paid me 4000THB a month. And 1500THB went to support my older sister with a daughter and her dead beat husband.

After paying rent, I did not have enough money for everyday expenses. Working in the bars have earned myself a lot of money. But it was not easy work at first. We only get 1 day off a week.

Today I have more than enough money to start my own business and get out of of that life. But I want to get married and it is hard for me to find a good man. I want children too and give them everything I never had including good education.

Prostitutes are the Ultimate Survivalist

Me: You were in the business for about 15 years, right? What’s the worst requests from your customers?

Gam: I hate anal sex! That is the worst especially with a man with big cock. Even with man with a small cock it is uncomfortable.

But when a man ask for anal sex I always charge more money. A lot more. I can make good money with my pussy. But with my ass sometimes I can not walk after one day. And when a man is too rough I have blood.

So I don’t care anymore I just charge a lot more money.

Me: How much did you charge for anal sex?

Gam: 3000THB extra, because you have to understand it takes time to clean out my ass. I use the water spray and it takes time and it’s not comfortable to clean all the shit out. Sometimes I use a ass cleaning method like this depending on how much I’ve eaten. It’s a method my gay friends suggested.

Me: And men paid? I mean you do have a gorgeous ass but you know I’m cheap. I would’ve definitely passed. I’m a pussy man but sometimes I’ll ask for anal sex with the ladies. They only charge up to 500THB extra.

Gam: Well how you think I made enough money to support my lifestyle today? I charge the men that sponsor me more money as well if they desire anal sex.

Sure, I know there are girls that charge less. Which is up to them. Maybe they enjoy it. For me, I don’t which is why I charge more.

Final Words of Wisdom from Gam

Me: After all the years as a prostitute, what have you learned? What would you tell all the girls taking on the profession of prostitution. And what would you tell guys coming to Thailand and paying girls for sex?

Gam: Three things. Stop gambling. Stop taking drugs. Find a good man with a good job.

Spending money on lottery is the worst thing a working girl can do. Sometime I go back to talk with girls I used to work with. They are still working in the bars and they started working the same time I did or longer. And they are more beautiful than I with many more sponsors.

But every time Thai lottery comes twice a month they spend nearly all they earned. Today is worst. Because now they can play Vietnamese lottery online and gamble every day.

There are many girls working today addicted to drugs. All of their hard earned money goes to supporting their habit. Or their Thai boyfriends’ habit.

Finally, find a good man. And when I mean find a good man I mean find a good man with a good job. Don’t automatically think just because he’s a foreigner that he has money. Many don’t have anything but come to Thailand because it is cheaper to have sex with ladies.

This is a job a lady cannot do for the rest of their lives.

For guys coming to Thailand please be fair to the ladies. I know many bar girls are not good. But there are also many that are just trying to take care of their families back home and trying earn a living.